Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Great Comment from Ruth B. on Columbuzz

I decided to reproduce it here, just in case it gets deleted on columbuzz:

You know, back in the day, it was a sign of respect to go to a funeral on behalf of the grieving family, even if you did not know the deceased.

I think the apology letter showed very well the type of person the trustee employee is, a kind respectable one.


She mentioned she liked and respected the daughter she had met and that’s why she went. Has anyone even tried to put themselves in her shoes and see her as a woman, a daughter and a mother to her own children?


She worked with the young woman prior to the funeral, had talked with her and I am sure tried to comfort her. As a daughter herself, she has lost both of her parents and knows the grief of a child for them.


As a mother, she knows the bond that has been lost. As a woman, she felt a bond for another grieving woman planning her parent’s funeral, something she has had to do twice, and believe it or not maybe sought to make sure things were going as planned to alieviate some of the burden from the daughter.


That is a time of strong grieving for the family and emotions are very high and even an act of kindness can be seen in the wrong light. I must confess that it shows me a little bit of the character of the grieving daughter to call the trustees office after getting the apology letter and refused to accept the letter.


Why not just throw it away?


Instead she calls already heated up and I’m sure she was polite, right? Very doubtful.


Once again, if you read the apology letter and have ever dealt with Sandra you know that she would not want to cause a grieving family any more pain.

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